Showing posts with label music. Show all posts
Showing posts with label music. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 14, 2025

My Mothers Day Retrospective

 

My Mothers Day Retrospective 

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At 3:00 in the morning on the Mexican holiday of the Dia de Madres, I startled awake to the blast of a band playing outside my bedroom window.

Naturally, I was out of bed in a flash and over to the window to see what brought on such music in the night. Despite the fullish moon, the sky held just enough clouds for the night to be dark. My window is high from the street and nobody ever looks up. I was invisible in my perch.

In front of the house next door, a pickup truck had parked. In the truck bed and around the truck were possibly a dozen, maybe more, band members, playing every kind of instrument. And, they were good. I mean, really, good. I watched as lights came on in various rooms of the neighbor’s house. Eventually, someone came to the door, undoubtedly Mom, walked outside and stood at the entry gate.

The band played at full heart. I didn’t eaves drop at the window long, climbed back into bed and enjoyed the twenty minutes or thereabouts of wonderful music, claiming the splash-over of the Mother’s Day serenade for myself.

In Mexico Mother’s Day is a Big Deal. It is celebrated on May 10 every year, no matter what day of the week that happens to be. This year it was Saturday.

I’ve no pretensions to be a musician but I do know when music is good, when it is tolerable, and when it can be dreadful.

At 3:00 the previous afternoon, I happened to be at my kitchen window and saw the young neighbor boy leave the house with a beautiful clarinet in hand. Ah, that answered a lot of questions I had about the mysterious (to me) musician in the neighborhood. Frequently, I listened to somebody practicing, often solo, but sometimes in company with other instruments, usually traditional but often jazz. For a practice session, he or they, was/were amazing.

What I found delightful is that the practice sessions were lovely listening. So this young man, maybe thirteen or fourteen years old, is a good musician. No matter where life takes him, he will always have that.

On our Mexican Mother’s Day, I learned that people here in Oconahua hire musical groups to serenade their Mothers. They move from street to street, from house to house, bringing music and love and fun and surprise.

There are several bands, formal and informal, in our town. This seems to be quite the musical community.

When I talk about the group who showed up outside my window, I call them the “young band” only because I could see two young men with clarinets on the north edge of the group, my neighbor and another young man. Our band could have included all ages. It could have been a neighborhood youth group. It was too dark for me to take a census.

The following day, another Mother’s Day, I enjoyed a visit with friends, John and Carol, soon to head out for Minnesota. I served scones and iced tea on the patio. A good time was had by all.

Sondra Ashton

HWC: Looking out my back door

May 15, 2025

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Tuesday, May 2, 2017

“On the Bus Again, Just Can’t Wait to Get On the Bus Again”

“On the Bus Again, Just Can’t Wait to Get On the Bus Again”
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            With appropriate apologies to Willie Nelson, I’ll soon be “making music with my friends.” We all know that I haven’t a musical molecule in my body, much as I love a wide variety of music.  But this music to which I refer is metaphorical music.

            Tomorrow I’ll board the posh Primera Plus autobus from Zapopan to Mazatlan where I’ll meet Kathy, who will fly in from Victoria, B.C. Rock and roll! This is a special time for us. Over years of vacationing together, Kathy and I grew accustomed to having a couple weeks of “girl time” to ourselves before being joined by her husband, Richard. However, the last three years, their Mexico trips have been focused, first, in search of a house in which to retire, and then, trips to mold their chosen house in Etzatlan to their needs.

            Don’t mis-read me. I love Richard and I love being with him. But, girl time is different. We talk about things differently. We have different interests. Our timing is different. Verbal intimacy happens. Oh, I can’t explain it.

            Richard retires in December this year. We’ve given that gentle man advance warning, now and then, Kathy and I will need to disappear for a week or two on a girl trip.

            This week we will stay at Kathy’s resort on the beach, spend hours lounging beneath a palapa, banter with beach vendors, a dozen or more of whom we know by name. We’ll nab Carlos for pulmonia rides to our favorite places, the Mercado, the Plazuela Machado, the Angela Peralta Teatro, the Callecita Restaurante. We’ll hop a bus for Cerritos and walk the rocky beach. We’ll be “going places we’ve never been, seeing things that we may never see again”.

            We have no big plans. We don’t need plans. We’ve learned not to make plans because both of us tend, on the way to “there”, to say, let’s see what is over “here”. Often we never make it to “there” but we surely have fun along the way.

            Then, bonus! The following week Crinny, Kathy’s sister, will join us. Oh, look out, World, here we come! “We’re the best of friends, insisting that the world keep turning our way,” and isn’t that what life’s all about anyway, even if the “vacation” is roasting hotdogs over a fire-pit in the back yard?

            Today I’m at loose ends, bouncing between those last minute jobs and being treated by friends as though I’m going on a journey to the ends of the earth. My last load of laundry dances on the line. Leo brought me tamales for breakfast, made by monks who sell them after the 8:00 Mass.

            I meet with the young men to discuss messy jobs they will do while I’m safely out of their way.  We planned it that way—at their urging. I’m sure neither want me poking over their shoulders asking questions, interfering.

While I’m not in their hair, Josue will take down my metal patio roof and rebuild it with a structure insulated against hot summer sun. He will paint the underside marina blue. Leo will chip away the window glazing on all my casa windows. Remember when windows were glazed? This stuff is a horrid, thick black goop, applied thirty plus years ago, dried, cracked and impossible to clean.
I’m glad to vacate my house for these jobs. When I return, the work will be finished, the potted plants and furniture back in place, the mess cleaned up and disposed. I’ll be blissfully unaware of any problems the men might have encountered.

I’ll be gone a mere two weeks but everybody insists on “going away” meals. Ariel and Lani took me to lunch at the laguna near San Juanito Escobedo. Tonight Carol and John are taking me to Casa Blanca in town for dinner. When I get on the bus in the early morning, I’ll still feel stuffed.

Going to Mazatlan from this mountain town is like entering a different country. The ocean instead of mountains. Sounds and sights are different. Air is redolent of sea-mist, heavy, humid, and soft, rather than dry, crisp and dusty. Our ears discern regional accents. The streets are a “different busy”. Sights and people are long-time familiar to us. For Kathy and me, Mazatlan has become a “home town”. It’s all good; it’s our kind of music.

We are of the generation that talk, eyeball to eyeball, hours at a time, without electronic devices. We tell stories and explore ideas. It’s our kind of “music”.

However, we have talked dreamed returning in another life as an all-girl mariachi band. I’ll be lead singer. Kathy wants drums and trombone. Crinny on base. Oh, what a world we imagine!

Sondra Ashton
HDN: Looking out my back door

April 27, 2017
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